what’s up, daddio?

reposted, because you haven’t seen it, and for father’s day.

yes, that’s my dad when he was about 16.

i’ve notice a handful of books in recent years from celebrities and television personalities, non-fiction books that are like a tribute to the father from the son.  i would imagine that any father who has a son so motivated to write about him must be a great dad.  however, some dads are so tough with their sons that those sons spend a lifetime fighting for approval.  probably the most famous example would be howard stern, who has admitted thousands of times that his entire show is basically a way of proving to his father that he’s not an idiot.

although i’ll never be famous enough to write a book about my father, i can still recognize and admit that i learned a lot from him.  most of it was good, but some of what i learned was what can be called “what not to do.”

Be tough with your kids, but also be there when they need you.

Make sure they understand the difference between “earning” something and “being given” something.

Be ready for hardship, but be ready to have fun.

No matter what you do, I’ll be there to pat you on the back, and I’ll be there to grab you by the neck.

Sweating is good for you.

Put on some pants because I’m turning down the heat to save a few bucks.

If you join a team, you stick with it until the end of the season.  You don’t quit after a few losses.

Homework, then TV.

What Mom doesn’t know, Dad might.  What Dad doesn’t know, Mom will.

If you can’t say “sorry” when you did something, then don’t try using “please” when you want something.

Not every dinner tastes great, but every dinner will be healthy.

Just because I can give you what you want, doesn’t mean that I will.

Never accept the answer, “Because I said so.”

Sports are important, but they’re not worth fighting about.

If your teacher says you did it, then you’re guilty until proven innocent.

If your brother or sister says you did it, you’re innocent until proven guilty.

If your report card says you did it, well, you did it.

I won’t always have all the answers, but I’ll always do everything possible to find the ones I don’t have.

52 thoughts on “what’s up, daddio?

  1. I can see the ‘what not to do’ lessons of my own youth here and I don’t know about you, but a couple were hard to get away from. sometimes in the trying so hard not to be my mother, I ended up my mother. lessons all the same. this is a healthy balance rich and for me, seeing the lessons in practice as my own raise theirs…feels pretty good.

    • in one child, i’m seeing the lessons i set forth and learned. in the other, not so much. but i hear that’s typical. i have to be careful though because the “not so much” one sometimes stalks my blog.

      • typical yes. if you have siblings you know this to be the case as i would venture fundamental differences there also. the blog stalking ‘not so much’ will likely be your greatest challenge…and a good one i’d bet. a pinch of curiosity, a dash of rebellion, make for interesting, if not exhausting, parenting. the ‘one’ child you’ll treasure all the more for the differences. happy father’s day rich.

      • thanks. you too? nah. the “other” one has been told lies about me and instantly believed them and has taken action on the assumption. the other one called me up and said, “dad, someone said this about you. is it true?” and i said, “no, of course not.” and she said, “okay. didn’t think so but had to ask.” and i said, “i totally understand.” that was the 13-year old. the 17-year old ran with the lie and built it up worse.

      • Ahhh, a 17-year old w/a chip? Not much to be done until and unless…hang in there, it gets harder 🙂
        Oh and, thanks for the retraction on the happy father’s day crack! all i did was take hair off, not add to my anatomy. 😉

  2. What a lovely post. The photo of your dad is truly gorgeous. Do you have it framed and on display? I was surprised that Father’s Day falls on the same day for the English as for the Americans. The reason I am surprised is that Mother’s Day is on two different dates. Happy Father’s Day for tomorrow.

  3. Sounds like your Father is one of the good ones.. mine was too!!
    Happy Father’s Day to you too Rich!!!!

  4. Many of us are quite busy, working hard and trying to take a care of a lot of business while our children are most needful of parenting. And we don’t always realize how they will see our efforts. Nor do we always realize what they really need, and how much the world has changed since we were kids. In every generation mistakes are made. I liked your post very much, and it brings me back to thoughts on the rearing of my own children… and thoughts on my grandchildren too. Thank you.

  5. Man that’s great advice from a seemingly great guy. Isn’t it crazy that most fathers tend to have the same encouragement for their sons?

  6. Love this! Clearly you are a good Dad (resisting the urge to say Daddy lol). And your father was a handsome gent…..so now I’m picturing you…..I seriously need to put on some clothes and leave my computer alone

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